I am Woman, Hear Me Gracefully Roar

7:10 PM

 
I don't talk politics. I have my feelings on matters, a few of them strong. But when politics start to blur the lines of my very essence as a woman, I can't sit back and stay silent. As a disclaimer, I know I have many friends who disagree with me on these subjects, and I mean no disrespect. I have nothing but love for anyone and just like me, everyone is free to form their own opinions. I think we are all ignorant about some aspects of these issues, but as a woman who has chosen to live life as a stay at home mom despite having paid for and earned my college degree and being perfectly capable of having a successful career, I wanted to share my two cents.

The fact of the matter is that women and men are indeed different. Men ARE naturally stronger. Women ARE the only ones who experience pregnancy and childbirth. Both genders DO have their inherent strengths and weaknesses when it comes to mental and emotional processing. We weren't made to be exactly the same, and different isn't bad- it's essential.

1- It is true that women are profiled in the workplace and in society as a whole. But doesn't the same happen to men? Think of all the uncomfortable situations that good, honest men are put into as a result of unfair profiling. If a man has a pretty coworker, he must walk on eggshells so as not to say or do something that might accidentally be misconstrued. If a repairman enters into the home of a woman, he must wonder if she is anxious in his presence. And firemen, police officers, and other servicemen are constantly touted as sex symbols. Women have to worry about their safety, but so do men. 

2- Have I felt held back by male opinions or judgement before? Sure. Have I felt held back by female opinions and judgement? Absolutely. I would venture to say that women are much more passive aggressive and combative to their female contemporaries than men are to women. But here's my question. Is that their fault or mine? Anyone can dull your spirit or bring you down- I've experienced this from both women and men. But it's ultimately up to myself as an individual to choose whether to project my own insecurities onto my interactions with others. Almost anything big in life will be met with some resistance, and male or female, it is up to us to break through that and pursue what we feel passionate about. 

3- Call me a prude, but sex was created to show love and make babies. Of course there is much more to it than that, and it is often misused with force or as a fulfillment of lust on either the male or female side. But seeing as how- all things considered- its ultimate purpose is procreation, there is no natural, easy, perfect way to prevent that from happening besides abstinence. As such, any life created as a result, consensual or otherwise, on accident or on purpose, is just that- a LIFE. Left to its own devices, this life will indeed grow and develop as the baby it is from the start. Unless the mother and/or baby are going to die, this issue is so black and white to me. There are so many options beyond having the baby and keeping it. No, they aren't simple. Yes, they're messy. But killing a human? There's nothing clean or simple about that.

4- For the record, I think women are a lot meaner to men than we often care to admit. There is constant banter about men being dumb, incapable, rude, and otherwise menacing. But is that fair? Just because we are women, does that give us license to talk down about our male counterparts without reservation?

5- Bad people are out there. Terrible things happen and women are often the victims at the hands of men. But this does not mean that we are living a lesser life. This subset does not represent the vast majority. I absolutely feel that humans of every race, gender, religion, and walk of life should be loved and cared for equally by humanity, despite the fact that people as a whole are imperfect. I refuse to let my own ignorance and that of others cast a shadow on my personal ability to love everyone and find joy in life, sometimes against all odds, resistance, and ridicule, and this same grace is something I offer to everyone I meet. 

As a woman, I want to know what is so wrong with quiet dignity and meekness? Why are we afraid to live our lives as women without glamor and accolades from society? Are we truly being strong women if we seek constant validation from both men and women alike for our strength and success?

"The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity." - Margaret D. Nadauld

I'm grateful to be a woman, and I'm extremely fortunate to have been supported by most of the men and women in my life. This truth is not lost on me. I've had my encounters with fear and degradation from both genders, but as a whole, people are rooting for other people. At the end of the day, male or female, we are all overcoming hard things, fighting the good fight, and trying to find the light amid the darkness in this crazy human experience. 

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2 comments

  1. I love this! I absolutely love this!

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  2. Love love love. And that quote is just perfect. Love you!

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